Getting my ducts in a row

 Where do I even begin. Its been one night. Ive been told Im ugly, lazy and self centered. Im selfish because I didnt fold some laundry.. She went on vacation for 2 nights and I worked and relaxed a little after 2 long hard and hot days. I would do more for her but why? Its not like she does anything for me. She criticizes me, makes fun of me and puts me down (in front of our kids). I really pissed her off when I said I would rather have a messy house and a happy marriage. Yes she does everything. She takes care of the kids and the home. I work 50 hours a week and make sure all the bills are paid. How is it possible to be so full of energy the last 2 nights but tonight i feel dead tired before 930. I know why, its because I came home and went to war. A whole evening of volleys back and forth. Then out of the blue she says what if you go to CA and we stay and then do a separate vacation together later. Thats 3 vacations this year. How many do you need? Our daughter is so excited. Iv...

 Money has long been a strain in my life and a strain on my marriage. For 2 and a half years I have been the sole bread winner. Thats fine and we make enough but my wife wont budget or stick to a budget. She wont cut up her credit card either. She doesnt rack it up but keeps it for "emergencies" unfortunately emergencies are things like buying a window AC from Costco or securing a lakeside cabin for a girls trip and still waiting for her friends to pay us back. Not sure why but woke up today depressed. I usually dont take adderall on the weekends. Maybe thats it. Maybe its my circumstance. Wife goes to Costco she takes 200$ cash. Please try to keep it to that theres not much in the debit account. Well she went over thats fine. She calls me from the grocery store "what kind of beer should i get for my friends coming over for the bbq?" Why are we buying beer? We took money last month from our kids savings account and still havent paid that fully back... 9 days til pay...